How the Club’s Rules Shaped Our Role at Events

Over the years, one of the most frustrating realities has been how much control the club exerted over Josephine, even in situations that should have been simple and personal.
At events she attended, Josephine wasn’t allowed to leave alone. This meant that I, as part of her support and family network, effectively became responsible for her entire experience on-site.

I wasn’t just accompanying her — I had to:
Snap photos of the events she took part in, because sharing or posting on social media wasn’t allowed or appropriate
Print selected photos for Josephine’s personal album
Backup SD cards to my PC and USB hard drives to preserve everything

All of this had to be done offline, because the club’s rules made it impossible to use social media for sharing or coordination.
In short, the club’s restrictions forced me into extra work and full responsibility for something that should have been simple and supported by Josephine herself. I wasn’t looking for extra tasks — I was filling a gap the club created.
This is a clear example of how control and bureaucracy in such organizations can shape, limit, and complicate personal relationships and everyday actions — all under the guise of “support.”
For me, it was a digital detox by necessity: I didn’t need Facebook, Twitter, or messaging apps to handle these events. I simply had to do the work properly, offline, for Josephine’s benefit.

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